You Can't Avoid Conflict...

I have never been a fan of boxing or wrestling or the Bachelor.  I just don't like conflict.

However, the truth is we can't avoid conflict.  Another truth is having conflict in your business or your personal life does not necessarily mean it is a bad thing.  Some conflict is good.  Certain types of  conflict can lead to new ideas and growth.

The key with conflict is how well you "fight".  Verbal abuse, arguing for the sake of arguing, close mindedness, immaturity, hate, anger, resentment, and other elements do not make a good fight.  Having a mature adult conversation does.

Stating your facts in a calm, rational voice is key.  Being open to hear what others say and how they feel is crucial.  Making a decision based on what is good for the business, family, relationship, or community as a whole is vital (even if that means your choice is not the decision that was picked).  You can't fight to win.  You have to fight to be heard but then you have to look at all the options on the table and pick the best one...not just yours.

Once the decision has been made you need to let it go.  You can't hold grudges  When the bell rings or the final rose has been handed out the fight is over.  Don't have a rematch or a reunion show to drag up all the old issues again...your goal is not to get ratings it is to get results.